so what have i got myself into?

[diluted]

CRAP... what the hell do i do i have a girlfriend that im really starting to dislike more and more by the day. I want to dump her but you see on sunday i did the stupid thing and slept with her, now i cant really dump her just like that. Not only that but i like my ex more and i will be working on getting her back pronto but must fix this problem first. The worst part though is this is the first real relationship my current g/f has been in and shes rather attached like.. oh my god let me breath woman attached.. Ive always prided myself on being a nice sensitive guy when it comes to females that i have relationships with, but this one i feel like ive gone on a different course, like its gunna look now like i used her and i feel like i should never have gone out with her in the first place. She has massive baggage and when we first hooked up i was like uh oh what the hell am i doing, then by the end of the night i had convinced myself it was sweet (stoopid thing to do).

If i was totally honest with myself i dont think i would have gone out with her in the first place and then i wouldnt have the problem i do now.

wow had to vent that.

[TastinGood]

Whatever you do, do it quickly. The longer it goes on, the harder it will be on her and you shouldnt string her along for a long time when you know that you dont want to be with her.

It's not fair to her.

[GravyTrain]

who cares about the girl? was it any good?

[Cyalaytr]

Are you sure you're just not freeked out by how close she got herself to you and you see it as smothering as opposed to love. I dont know your past relationships but it sounds as if you get antsy and wanna run when someone gets too close. Are you the product of a divorce? Maybe you should just tell her your true feelings and that you have worries when she gets too close but if she did stay at arms lenght until you got more comfortable with it you may actually like someoen who treats you nice.

CYA

[Hannibal]

If you didn't wanna be with her, why'd you fuck her?
That was pointless, not to mention stupid.
You have no one to blame but yourself for this mess, any advice we give, won't be heeded. Let's face it. You came here because you felt guilty, and you wanted people to tell you it'll be okay!
we've all done it.
it's like a human necessity or something.
I call 'em like I see 'em. And from what I've found, going back to the ex's, doesn't work. It just can't, especially if there's a LOT of history between you and the ex. It always seems to boil down to how "it used to be" you can only move on.
Time doesn't work in reverse my friend. I'm sure this girl can't have THAT much "baggage" as you proclaim, and I think you say this to validate to us the reasons why you wanna dump her, when in reality, you got the cake, now you want out.
Sounds like there's a lot of rationalization going on wiht you in this relationship.
I would recommend getting out now, but not going back to the ex. That's just problematic.
she's an ex for a reason.
anyways... stay with this girl if you can,
maybe give her a chance... *shrugs*
if not, move on, head high.
And don't go fuckin girls you don't like anymore.

[Ivana]

Boy, Hanny is good [img]smile.gif[/img]

[SHATOUSHKA]

dump her

work on you

[diluted]

thanks guys

hanny i wasnt looking for anyone to tell me its ok i know full well its not. As for the ex neither of us can figure out why we broke up in the first place [img]frown.gif[/img]

cya i dont freak out when chicks get close the closer the better to a certain extent (though i am the product of a divorce)

[Cyalaytr]

Sorry maybe I mistook what you meant by the following:

The worst part though is this is the first real relationship my current g/f has been in and shes rather attached like.. oh my god let me breath woman attached..


CYA

[Hannibal]

4 Horsies...
Just be carefull, the reason neither of you can remember why you broke up in the first place, MIGHT be because you really don't. But odds are, it's the bi-product of being without each other whom you got used to having around after some time.
But I agree with Shatzy.
Dump her,
my recommendation is to stay away from the ex for at least 6 mos. to a year. .... then if you STILL Feel the same way, then maybe try to make something work, but try hard to leave the past behind, and like shatzy said once more...
work on YOU.
until then, peace be with you!